Tag Archive | millennials

She’s Gotta Have It (Review)

I recently binged watched She’s Gotta Have It, and I must say I was throughly impressed! Having seen the original movie years ago, I knew the premise of the show, but what I didn’t expect was the implementation of so many other social issues like gentrification, back alley butt injections, millennial poverty, anti-catcalling and more. The show was beautifully directed and in true Spike Lee fashion there were random monologues by characters, music perfectly fit with almost every scene, and interesting camera angles.

Spike Lee took his classic film, and updated it making it relatable for millennials everywhere. I think the series can be enjoyable for women and men alike. In all honesty the series was not just about a girl who had three men companions, but much more. While that was a factor, thats was not the sole storyline. Nola Darling, considering herself a  “sex positive, polyamorous, pansexual” leads a life of struggle. She struggles with her relationships with her men, and one woman, she struggles with her art career, she struggles to maintain her teaching job, and she struggles to pay her rent. But, through her struggle, she creates beautiful art, giving great meaning to the term “starving artist.” There is no question of her talent, and thats what stood out to me the most.

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As I watched Nola Darling find her way through the first season of the show, I found myself thinking of another show.  I couldn’t help drawing comparisons between Nola Darling and  Issa from the hit show, Insecure. This past season of Insecure we also watched as Issa struggled with her new life without Lawrence and as she tried to find her way through her self-proclaimed “hoe phase”.  In the case of both women, I have seen so many tweets, memes, and even heard several radio station DJ’s condemning both Issa and Nola Darling for the lives they choose to lead sexually.  While I personally don’t consider either woman a “freak” or any other degrading term I have heard them called, it made me even more aware of the double-standard that is in place when it comes to men and women’s sexual lives.

Both series are well worth the watch. They are relatable and humorous, and will have you questioning society and the world around you! Happy watching! 

What did you think about either of these series? Let me know in the comments! 

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Spotlight Series: D’Laun Montgomery

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D’Laun Montgomery has always had an eye for fashion. He grew up in the south suburbs of Chicago.  He is the co-owner of fashion boutique Lost and Found.

“I developed a passion for entrepreneurship because of the freedom it would give me… we are our own bosses.” There is a great deal of respect that comes with being a business owner, and a young business owner at that. Montgomery and his partners are definitely earning that respect.

Montgomery met one of his business partners in 2012, they were college roommates. He took interest in his style. “Marc was always at least 2 years ahead of fashion trends, and I admired his fashion sense.” Montgomery went from just admiring, to searching and really diving into the fashion scene.

The boutique has been in operation since November 15, 2015. He has no plans of stopping his train to success. He feels that fashion allows people to express their individualism, and rightly so. He has his future on his mind as he has been strategically moving forward with his business partners. Ultimately, he wants his store to become the standard for all retail. Working for other people did not give him the same satisfction as working for himself, and towards his own goals.

Montgomery has more than present satisfaction in mind, he is aiming toward generational wealth. “I want to start building generational wealth…I don’t have any kids now but I’m putting in 18-19 hours into my business regularly now so I can spend time with my kids later on in life.”

Montgomery’s major influences include Ralph Lauren, Greg Selkoe, Curtis Jackson, and Dame Dash. At just 24 years old he has accomplished so much and is looking to conquer so much more!

You can support him and keep up with all of his exciting upcoming endeavors and information by following him at…

Facebook:
D’Laun Montgomery

Instagram:
@Poppadopolis_

Twitter:
@Poppadopolis_

 

 

Will Work for Bill Money.

“Thank you for applying but we have chosen not to move forward with your application at this time, but we will keep your application on file for the future.” Over the past 4 years since graduating with my B.A., I have received at least 200 or more emails like this. Or even better, “Thank you for interviewing, but we have decided to move forward with another candidate.”  

After so many of these emails, many thoughts begin to transpire. “Why did I even go to college?” “What’s wrong with me?” “How can I get experience, if people won’t hire me and give me a chance?” “Why am I trying to sell myself to these employers?” All of these thoughts and more bring on none other than, drum roll please… depression. I’ve had all of these thoughts and more. Even people around me who have gone to college and gotten degrees, have been forced into settling for minuscule positions. It is so frustrating to dedicate so much time to an education and earning a degree, only for it not to mean a thing in the real world. Even the fact that some people find jobs but are unable to work in their field, is a disappointment. Although, many millennials are facing this struggle, our parents generation have a hard time relating to it. See, there was once a time not long ago, where a high school diploma sufficed. People were able to get a job with only a high school education and keep that job until retirement. Sounds like a dream, right? Unfortunately, that is highly unlikely and it’s now more of  a dream deferred.

The societal view and expectation of millennials is also a bit unrealistic. You’re supposed to go to college, get a degree, get a job, get an apartment, get married, buy a house, have kids, and live happily ever after. While this is ideal and what most people strive for, it is a bit of a fairy tale now. Most are barely making ends meet month- to- month. It’s hard to add-in extras or even think to that point, when bills need to be paid, and student loan debt is up the wall.

But, if you’re like me you are trying to remain positive even with all of these other thoughts against you. Even though it is really hard at times to stay focused on the positive, it’s necessary to do so. So, keep this in the back of your mind, eventually the perfect job will come, and life will be perfect. But until then, don’t get sunken into misery or give into frustration. Pick up a side hustle, start doing things that can add and build up your resume and make you more marketable, and do things that increase your knowledge.  Keep applying, keep trying, and keep moving forward. 

Spotlight Series: Alicia Nolen

For the first of my young entrepreneurs spotlight series, we have Alicia Nolen. This 23-year-old Riverdale, Illinois native has recently started the business “Aspirations Apparel.”  she was looking to make something suitable for men and women alike. “I wanted to create something simple and positive; but also affordable.” Since the kickoff of the company on Thanksgiving 2016, there has been quite a buzz.

Alicia has always been very artsy. Not only does she do graphic design but she was a dancer for the Sankofa Dance Troupe, and a percussionist throughout elementary and high school. She even created her own MySpace and Tagged layouts back in the day! While most of us were scrolling through websites trying to pick the perfect one, she made her own perfect layout. “I’ve always been an extremely creative person, but was too shy to actually pursue my aspirations.”  She double majored in Computer Graphic Design with a track in Print Media and Public Relations & Marketing with a track in Business Marketing while a student at Ashford university. With such a strong background, Alicia is destined for success. She also runs a graphic design business, Nolen Designs. With this she creates logos, business cards, websites, and more.

“What’s stopping me?” That’s what Alicia uses for motivation. With solid education, and a good following thus far, there is nothing stopping her. She possess the drive and motivation and is striving for greatness. She is very family oriented, stating her mom, grandmother, and dad as her biggest influences to succeed.

“In time, and once I am a little more active in the world, I plan on putting on or sponsoring events targeting school children or at risk youth, where I can donate items in need or have a drive, not just the clothing. Thankfully, I have made amazing college friends who are actively working in various communities with the at risk youth and in the school system. I want the apparel in part to show unity and uplifting of one another. Something different from all of the other small clothing and hat businesses. I want to make a difference. I know that things take time and I can be a bit ahead of myself. But nothing comes to the one who plays it safe, its okay to be a risk taker. Going for it with all of my faith and pride is the only way I know how. Its gotten me this far and I am doing great!”

With that being said, let’s support Alica Nolen and her visionary business, Aspiration Apparel. It is not just another business, yet a business with a purpose, vision, and long-term goal. Cheers to you Alicia Nolen! You can find her merchandise at http://www.aspirationsapparel.com and like her on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/aspirationsapparel/.

The Question

The holidays are here! This is my favorite time of year. I love Christmas music, food, and just spending quality time with my loved ones. But the downside in all of this is that one question that seems unavoidable, “When are you getting married?” Bruh. I HATE that question. Not only does it turn a comfortable, relaxing time into a real awkward situation, but I feel like that is one of the hardest questions to answer. I’m not really sure what the correct answer is. I usually just say I don’t know. Which is true, as the female, traditionally its a surprise. I also feel unsure about the answer not because I don’t feel secure in my relationship, or secure in the fact that one day I will be married. But, more so because society and especially family members put these sometimes very unrealistic timelines on our lives.

You’re expected to graduate from high school, graduate college, get a job, get a man, get married, and start popping out kids. While this is the “American Dream”, in most cases it’s just that, a dream. Things don’t always fall into place just like that. In all actuality, I understand why family members ask this dreadful question. For their generations, it was much more common to be married in your early 20’s. So looking at our generation through that lens, it can get confusing as to why we wait longer to tie the knot. With that in mind,  I’m already preparing my answer for this question. I vow to not be caught off guard, or even offended when this subject comes up. Instead I’ll just smile and say, “eventually, but right now I’m working on being the best ME I can be so later I can be the best wife I can be.”

5 Things for Millennials to Remember

Millennials often have a bad connotation. We are the age group that was fortunate enough to grow up while technology advanced in front of our eyes, but unfortunate enough that many went to 4 year universities and can’t find good jobs. With student loans, rent, and countless bills it is so easy to get discouraged and even depressed. But, remember these few things when you start to feel down…

  1. Your hard work is not in vain: Keep pushing and you can achieve whatever it is you are working toward.
  2. Don’t get discouraged: If you can’t get that job you want, start working on your own to create the job you want in your free time. Do not give up on your dreams.
  3. You ARE good enough: self-explanatory.
  4. Live everyday like it’s your last: Life is promised to no one, anything can happen to anyone at any moment.
  5. PUT THE PHONE DOWN AND ENJOY LIFE!: So many of us get wrapped up in our phones, but  so much can be missed with your face stuck in a phone screen.