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3 Reasons Why You Need a 5-Year Plan

Part of adulting is having a game-plan. Sure, not everything in life can be planned, but most things can be. I have seen people here and there who go wherever the wind takes them, and not plan a thing. That works for them. But me on the other hand, I tend to be more strategic about my moves, It’s always best to be prepared, than to be frazzled and miss an opportunity. when there is no need to be. As the saying goes, ”
if you stay ready, you don’t have to get ready.”

  1. You’re not getting any younger!– While this may be a harsh truth, it is a reminder to take advantage of every day you are on this earth. You don’t want life to pass you by  without having accomplished the things that are most important to you. giphy
  2. Execute!- Having a written visual of your goals can be a great reminder and the push you need to get you to what you want. It is very easy to speak things that you want but often, if you don’t have a plan behind those words, they will stay only words. Your dreams can become deferred. Even if you don’t have something planned down to every second, that’s fine. It’s just good to get your ideas down, so you can see them and hold yourself accountable. There are so many wonderful tools available to guide you through your planning, just Google it! Or, if you want to be less informal use any old journal you have and just write!giphy1
    1. Helps with small goals!- Sometimes having a 5-year plan can be intimidating, but making your smalls goals along the way to help you get to the big end goal can helpful. Just view the 5-year plan as your end result and give yourself daily, monthly, and yearly goals. Once you start knocking out those daily and monthly goals it will give you the motivation to keep pushing to your final finish line!


Good luck and happy planning! What are some things you want accomplished in the next 5 years? Let me know in the comments!



For the past few years, I have celebrated my birthday with a birthday blog. One year I did a poem, another a list of lessons I’ve learned, but this year I will just write. This past year has been filled with ups & downs. While all the times were not good, I feel like I have finally come into my purpose as a person. There have been a great learning and growing experiences. Sometimes it we tend to be so hard on ourselves about the things that we havent accomplished, we overlook the things that have been accomplished. I am fully guilty of this. When in fact this past year, I have made substantial progress in several areas of my life. I bought a car, mended relationships, got my braces taken off (😁), published a book, changed my grad school program to what I truly love, became more regular with my spirituality, and last but not least become consistent with missashleyanecdotes.com! So far, I have accomplshed all but one of the goals I made for myself for the year, with time to spare! I also became much more aware of why forgiveness is important, and what it really means to cherish the ones you love.  I have even become more appreciative of my own life. There was a time I was so filled with depression that I couldn’t see the good in life or even living another day. Every day of life is truly a blessing, you never know when you leave your house in the morning if you will make it back safe. That being said I am aiming to make my 26th chapter even better! I have marked this next year in my life #BecomingFearless. I am on a journey of not only becoming fearless but truly reaching and conquering my dreams!

Cheers🎉 giphy1

Becoming Fearless

Fearless. Who can really say that they are fully fearless? Whether it be phobias of spiders, clowns, car accidents, or even mice, those phobias can be very real and disabling. After watching this weeks episode of the American Horror Story: Cult, my eyes were opened to just how daunting fear can be. In the show, the character Kai Anderson gave a twisted monologue on fear, and how it should be used to make people not only uncomfortable but use it to keep control. Another character in the show is ridden with numerous phobias. So much so they make her hallucinate.

After watching this, I began to examine myself and my fears. I began to think about how my fears have the potential to hold me back. Like many, I have the unfortunate fear of public speaking. I absolutely dread it. Being in grad school brings on unavoidable presentations. Before each presentation for a bout a week I get a lot of anxiety. But, when the time comes to actually start talking a switch clicks and somehow or another I make it through the presentation usually with ease. In the end, I try to reflect and figure out what made me so anxious and fearful.

I have truly been working on this, I do not want to live my life stifled. In the past month alone, I have been interviewed twice, and I am currently starting a new semester filled with none other than…presentations. Instead of giving myself anxiety as I usually do, I am making a conscious effort not to overwork myself and my feelings. Anxiety takes A LOT of energy, and I refuse to give in. I am taking control and no longer giving power to being fearful.

With most fears and anxiety it takes you to finally say that’s enough, no more. Remeber no fear is stupid, and no fear is bigger than you. And now, in the words of Aunttie Maxine, “I’m reclaiming my time.” And here’s to you working toward a fearless lifestyle as well. Cheers!

What are some fears you’ve conquered? Let’s talk about it in the comments!



So…You Hate Your Job?

I often hear people complaining about their jobs. Trust me, I’ve been there as well. Waking up and traveling to a job that you dread. The only thing that keeps you motivated is the paycheck. Sound familiar? If not, that makes my soul smile, if so, I feel you. It happens. But, that does not mean it has to stay that way, and it certainly does not mean you have to accept that. Here are a few quick tips to help you through.

  1. Start your day with motivation and inspiration!– Whether it be a cup of coffee, blasting your favorite artist on your commute, or even listening to a sermon from your favorite pastor, do things that will pump you up! This will keep you from being drained as soon as you walk in the door. If you can keep your energy high, then it will be harder to get it down. Also take the time to do self-care while you are off the clock. Make sure your mental mindset stays in tact. If you dislike your job, where you spend several hours per week, it can be easier to slip into depression.
  2. Ignore negative coworkers!– I know it’s hard, but you have to tune out the complainers and all negativity, including coworkers. They can easily drain you of your good energy and suck you into the negatvity. Before you know it, you will become a complainer as well. They will make it even harder on you to get through your days especially if you are already struggling. So, try to steer clear of the Negative Nancy’s, and when working directly with them, keep it straight business. Once they start to complain either smile and excuse yourself, or drop a positive word here and there. This will usually make them less likely to complain to you, negative people usually only like other negative people.
  3. Keep moving forward!– Just because you may not like your current job, does not mean you have to stay there forever. You can always job-hunt, and look for opportunities that will better suit you. Although thats hard, you may end up finding your dream job eventually. Even working on yourself and gaining more qualifications to make yourself more marketable, is also an excellent way to help you move onto a position you would enjoy more. 

What are some tips you would give someone who hates their job, let’s talk about it in the comments!


August Writing Challenge

Q:Who is someone who inspires you? 

Recently, I have been really inspired by two women. The first, Issa Rae. For those of you who may not know, she is the creator of the hit show Insecure and the author of the book, The Misadventures of an Awkward Black Girl. I read her book about a year ago. Not only was the book hilarious, it was filled with so much truth and authenticity. She shared her personal story that so many can relate to of what it’s like to not always fit the mold. Then, shortly after I began to see commercials for her upcoming HBO show Insecure. From the commercials I was sold. She was working with kids, and did not have her life fully together, my life in a nutshell. Now the show is in its second season and I absolutely love it! It is so relatable. She has become an inspiration to me because she is a vibrant young African-American writer and creator who is giving us quality content. For that, she has become a great inspiration to me. She is showing me that everything I am currently striving for can absolutely be obtained, with persistency and consistency.


The second woman, is none other than Maxine Waters, affectionately known as Aunttie Maxine. Although Mrs. Waters is not new to politics or speaking her mind, she is gaining a new following of millennials, thanks to social media. She is #Reclaiminghertime and fighting for just treatment for Americans throughout the county. She has become a great inspiration to me because she is unapologetic. She speaks the truth and has no fear in doing so.

Who are your biggest inspirations? Let me know in the comments! 

Spotlight Series: D’Laun Montgomery

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D’Laun Montgomery has always had an eye for fashion. He grew up in the south suburbs of Chicago.  He is the co-owner of fashion boutique Lost and Found.

“I developed a passion for entrepreneurship because of the freedom it would give me… we are our own bosses.” There is a great deal of respect that comes with being a business owner, and a young business owner at that. Montgomery and his partners are definitely earning that respect.

Montgomery met one of his business partners in 2012, they were college roommates. He took interest in his style. “Marc was always at least 2 years ahead of fashion trends, and I admired his fashion sense.” Montgomery went from just admiring, to searching and really diving into the fashion scene.

The boutique has been in operation since November 15, 2015. He has no plans of stopping his train to success. He feels that fashion allows people to express their individualism, and rightly so. He has his future on his mind as he has been strategically moving forward with his business partners. Ultimately, he wants his store to become the standard for all retail. Working for other people did not give him the same satisfction as working for himself, and towards his own goals.

Montgomery has more than present satisfaction in mind, he is aiming toward generational wealth. “I want to start building generational wealth…I don’t have any kids now but I’m putting in 18-19 hours into my business regularly now so I can spend time with my kids later on in life.”

Montgomery’s major influences include Ralph Lauren, Greg Selkoe, Curtis Jackson, and Dame Dash. At just 24 years old he has accomplished so much and is looking to conquer so much more!

You can support him and keep up with all of his exciting upcoming endeavors and information by following him at…

D’Laun Montgomery





My Road to Becoming a Published Author

As most of you could have guessed by now, writing is my sole passion, it always has been and always will be. Unfortunately, I don’t think I FULLY realized this until recently.


Blogging isn’t something I just do for fun. While it is fun and I love it, I do it for my love of writing. It has become my way to keep learning and practicing the wonderful world of writing.

 My love of writing started at a young age. I still have scrapbooks of books, poems, and stories I made while I was in grade school. In high school, I became a reporter for the school newspaper and by my junior year, I was the editor. Then came college time, I was accepted into a very well know school for journalism, but due to financial circumstances I could not attend. Instead, I attended junior college for my first two years with a full tuition scholarship. By the time I finished those two years, I’m not sure exactly what happened. Before finally getting my bachelors 2.5 years later, I had gone through a couple different majors. I was a speech pathology major for a semester, changed to English Education, then finally changed to English and a minor of Journalism. Once I did this I was so relieved. I had finally gotten back to my roots., my classes were intriguing and I felt like I was living my purpose. I began writing again, and heavy. I was a part of the university newspaper and magazine, I held an internship in which I blogged for the university, overall I was genuinely happy.


But, since graduating I have not quite been able to get into the field with a full-time writing gig. For me, this would be ideal, my dream job. As a kid, I always was to be a writer for VIBE Magazine.

I decided to go to grad school, once again with a major that had nothing to do with writing. While my grades were stellar, I had no connection to what I was spending so much time on. I decided to stop running from what I have always known  in my heart I wanted. I made a conscious decision to put more time and effort into my craft. I have taken it upon myself to stay active, to  ensure my skills are elevated and not deteriorating.

It has been such a joy writing for all of you. Thank you to all of those who read, share, comment, and even like my posts. I truly and deeply appreciate it.


Now to my most recent endeavor. I decided that it was time I stop waiting for my dream job, and start putting some effort in besides applying for jobs, and coming home unfulfilled with the job I have. I decided to write a book. The crazy thing is, once I got started it just flowed. It felt so natural. While in the process of developing it, I had several ideas for forthcoming books.

On June 7, 2017, I published my very first book. “Adulting 101: A Millennials’ Guide to Becoming an Adult.” A self-help book for individuals finding their way through the adult world. You can find the book in the Kindle/ Amazon store. I am so proud of this major accomplishment, and trust me this is just the beginning.

So, from me to you, don’t wait for anyone to give you anything. Never run from the things you want and that make you happy. Start thinking of your dreams and future. Think about the person you want to be, and become that person. It is never too late to pursue your dream, every day you have breath in your body, you have a chance to start living your passion.