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The “Strong Friend”

Most of us have one. The friend that you turn to at any moment. When things are good, bad, and especially when things are terrible. You probably call this friend for anything, you depend on them for comfort and support. You know that if you called in the middle of the night and just needed to talk they would be willing to wake out of their sleep and talk you through your issues. More than likely you admire them for their strength. But, I am here to tell you they need you just as much as you need them. Make sure that just as much as you call to complain, or tell them about your terrible day at work, you listen to theirs. For every text that starts of, “Bisssshhhhh”, make sure you’re sending one that says “I love you”, or “I hope you have a great day.” Make sure you are giving them the same love and support they are constantly giving you!

Being the strong friend is a blessing and a curse. Yes, you may be the voice of reason or the general shoulder to cry on in your group of friends. But, the downside is when you need that same support your friends may not even realize it. You could be down in the dumps for days, but because you probably continue to play your role as the “strong friend” they think you have it all under control. But, girl, it’s ok. You don’t always have to be the strong friend, you need support and comfort just as much as anyone else.┬áMake sure to speak up and let that be known! And do not feel bad or any less strong because of it. Friendship should always be mutual. Point blank period. If you notice a “friend” is always coming to you with their problems, but never around for your trials and tribulations, maybe you should seriously rethink where you stand with that person.

 

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Girls Trips: The Good, Bad, & Ugly

Girls Tip was full of #BlackGirlMagic! The movie is centered in New Orleans during Essence Fest, which is the ultimate girls trip! Queen Latifah, Tiffany Haddish, Jada Pinkett-Smith, and Regina Hall assemble to make the perfect story of  sisterhood and friendship. I laughed, almost cried, cheered, and of course I went to see the movie with my girls!

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If you a part of a friend group, you know just how genuine this movie is. Groups of friends can constantly experience ups and downs. Ceratin friends may become closer than others in the group. You sometimes go through rough patches and petty arguments in friendships just like any other relationship. Between careers, kids, and even financial hardships it gets hard to keep up with your friends. Outings become fewer and farther between, phone calls become text messages, and before you know it large amounts of time pass and you’ve missed chunks of each others lives. But, the ultimate goal with sisterhood is to continue to grow together instead of allowing yourselves to grow a part.

The movie truly showcases the importance of sisterhood and friendship. Life throws us numerous struggles, and those struggles become easier to handle with when you have a support group. It is encouraging to have your girls behind you cheering from the sidelines, ready to fight for your honor, or wiping your tears after a disappointment. Girls trips give you permission to pull out that dress and heels you’ve been dying to wear, eat all day everyday, and dance like there’s no tomorrow. It’s an opportunity to relax, drink, be adventerous, and just let your hair down away from your everyday life.

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Girls trips can also bring unresolved issues to the forefront. If you and one of your friends attending the trip have had an issue, you better believe it will come out on that trip. Make sure when you agree to a girls trip you have a solid relationship with each person going. Try to resolve any and all conflicts before you leave. The last thing you want to do is spend your money and be uncomfortable for a few days!

It can even bring out hidden personal issues. Someone may get too drunk and suddenly start spilling their guts and start crying. But, this is what girls trips are for! Once you agree to go on a trip with your girls, nothing is off limits! You are allowed to be on your worst behavior! You can look forward to days and nights of endless girl talk, which in essence can be very theraputic and rejuvinating!

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 I have had my fair share of girls trips. Each time I go on a trip with my girls, I come back with a greater appreciation for each one of them. Girls trips are a way to strengthen your bond all while exploring the world together.

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Girls Trip, New Orleans 2016

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Girls Trip, Northern Illinois University 2014

 

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Girls Trip, Atlanta 2015 

Have you been on a girls trip? Are you thinking of planning one? Which character are you most like from the movie? Tell me about it in the comments!