A break-up can be hard on anybody, and I’m sure we have all been there. Depending on how long the relationship lasted, and how many memories were shared a break-up can be downright depressing. But, that break-up does not define you and it does not mean that your life is over, it just means your life has taken a turn. For whatever reason the relationship has comes to an end, and it is important to keep moving forward with your life. It’s ok to be sad or even to take a step back if you need to, but it’s not ok to stay stuck in the pain. It’s also easiest to get over when the situation does not become messy or petty. Here are some tips I have gathered along the way that helped me to push through some major splits.
- Cut off all communication! This for me was key! It becomes much easier to move forward and start to heal and get over an individual when you aren’t subjected to looking at them on any of your social media feeds. You can fall into an unhealthy trend of needing to constantly check their social media just to see what they are up to. Even worse, any of their posts can become a trigger, and bring up overwhelming emotions, especially if they have moved on and you haven’t.
- Block their phone number! This may be a tough one but, if you are serious about moving forward it’s for the best. The last thing you want once you are finally getting over the situation is to be awaken to a late night drunk text from that person. And even more, you don’t want to be the late night drunk texter!
- Ask friends and family to be considerate and NOT keep you updated on the other person! While friends and may feel they are doing you a favor by giving you random tidbits, that can often cause more hurt. In all honesty, you are no longer in a relationship with this person so there is no need for a play-by-play of what they’re doing! You should not feel obligated to have conversations about the person that upset you or make you feel uncomfortable.
- Use this time to get in tune with yourself! Relationships can be awesome, but once you lose that person you may have to re-learn who you are. You can get back to being selfish for a while, it is so easy to lose track of your identity in relationships.
Stay strong and think positive! One chapter in your life has ended, but that only means another is beginning! What helped you to move forward after a break-up? Share in the comments!