Whenever I think of friends, I always think of epic tv groups of friends like Girlfriends, Living Single, Martin, or A Different World. All of these shows, very different in concept had one great similarity, they were all focused around groups of friends. Friendship can be a beautiful thing, but just as any relationship can turn ugly at the drop of a hat, a friendship can too. I often wonder how and why friendships go sour. There’s always that saying “some people are in your life for only a season.” While this should be a comforting quote, it really does not stop the hurt or confusion of ended friendships. It’s interesting that some friends become like your family while others eventually become strangers to you.
The older I get the more I realize with friends it really is quality over quantity. There is no point in having numerous people around you that serve no purpose other than just taking up space. In hardship, it becomes clear who is genuinely there for you and who may only be around for the good times. Unfortunately, it is a sad realization when you figure out that someone you considered to be a friend is no where to be found in your time of need.
But, the most important thing about friendship I have learned is to be the friend that you want someone to be to you. There are many relationships that become one-sided. This can be draining and cause a rift in a relationship. Once you notice that you are doing more for your “friend,” than they are doing for you, maybe you should reevaluate your “friendship.” Instead, start looking for friendships that leave you feeling energized and refreshed.
The amazing side of having a friend or even a group of friends that support, encourage, and cheer you on. Life, especially young adulthood can be very harsh at times. It’s always a plus when you have a person or people to lean on that will have your back. So I leave you with this, if your friendship isn’t mutually beneficial, uplifting, or progressive, you may need to reevaluate what you really have and let it go.