The Question

The holidays are here! This is my favorite time of year. I love Christmas music, food, and just spending quality time with my loved ones. But the downside in all of this is that one question that seems unavoidable, “When are you getting married?” Bruh. I HATE that question. Not only does it turn a comfortable, relaxing time into a real awkward situation, but I feel like that is one of the hardest questions to answer. I’m not really sure what the correct answer is. I usually just say I don’t know. Which is true, as the female, traditionally its a surprise. I also feel unsure about the answer not because I don’t feel secure in my relationship, or secure in the fact that one day I will be married. But, more so because society and especially family members put these sometimes very unrealistic timelines on our lives.

You’re expected to graduate from high school, graduate college, get a job, get a man, get married, and start popping out kids. While this is the “American Dream”, in most cases it’s just that, a dream. Things don’t always fall into place just like that. In all actuality, I understand why family members ask this dreadful question. For their generations, it was much more common to be married in your early 20’s. So looking at our generation through that lens, it can get confusing as to why we wait longer to tie the knot. With that in mind,  I’m already preparing my answer for this question. I vow to not be caught off guard, or even offended when this subject comes up. Instead I’ll just smile and say, “eventually, but right now I’m working on being the best ME I can be so later I can be the best wife I can be.”